Everything You Wanted to Know about the Phone Meetings

When?

Sundays at 11:00 a.m. Eastern Time

Note: The groups start right on time, so please join on time.

What’s the phone-conference dial-in number?

Dial in number for the group: 646-876-9923

(If you’re calling from outside the U.S., click here for local dial-in numbers).

Meeting ID 666-327-315# (no need for a participant ID).

Note: This information is for your personal use only, please don’t give it to anyone else.

Does it cost anything to participate?

The phone group is completely free.

Who leads the groups?

Like in all our 12-Step groups, the phone group moderator is a veteran member. He isn’t a professional, but rather someone who needed help and got here just like the rest of us, joined the program, recovered, and is now sharing his experience with other members. The Sunday group is moderated by Allan K.

Do I have to speak in the group?

Of course not! There is no obligation to speak. Over time, as members become more connected to the group, most people want to start sharing. Sharing our experiences and questions is an important part of the process. It helps us overcome feelings of shame, guilt, and isolation which so often feed our addiction.

Is it possible that someone might recognize me?

The group is completely anonymous, which means that no one uses their last name. The chance that someone who knows you will be on the line and will recognize you by your voice is practically zero. Even if that was the case, there is nothing to worry about. What’s he going to say? That he’s dealing with exactly the same problem, and heard you in a recovery program? It’s important to remember that the risk is far greater of getting caught using porn than the risk that someone might recognize us in the process of recovery. From our experience, we can say that we have never met anyone who was hurt by participating in the group.

What else is important to know?

If you participated in the phone group and have questions, but are still not comfortable asking them on the call, you’re welcome to write to us: help@pornanonymous.org.

Also, you can email the group leader directly with any questions or comments. Allan K’s email: allan@pornanonymous.org

The experience of participating in the phone group the first few times can vary from one person to another. There are people who immediately “connect” to the group, start to work the Steps and get on board right away. But there are also people who don’t connect right away or who are confused about the dynamics of the group. Sometimes a new member comes and hears guys who have been there for a while, already know each other, and use words and phrases that include concepts that are foreign to him. That could be a bit intimidating.

We recommend that you don’t make up your mind after just one meeting, but keep coming back at least six times continuously, and only then decide whether or not to continue. Typically, after participating six times, it’s easier to understand what the group is about, what the Steps are, how it works, and then to decide if it suits you or not.

By reading this, you’ve already taken a small step toward recovery. Keep it going! If you have any other questions, or just need some encouragement, don’t hesitate to contact us (help@pornanonymous.org).